Get Your Own *$#@ Pie!

I was almost steamrolled again today. I was driving home and gave the steamroller a call to thank him for referring some business to me. The next question he asked scared me. "Are you off work Wednesday?" "Yes," I replied hesitantly. "Well, then could you go by X restaurant and pick up the pie I ordered when they open? The line will be really long when I get off work. The pie is already paid for." "What time do they open?" I asked. Why did I even ask?! Why don't I just say no? This is my day off. I already have plans with a friend to meet for lunch and a movie with the kids. I informed the Steamroller of this. He then said he'd find out what time the restaurant opened and would call me back. In the meantime, I decided to just say no. When he called back, he said, "How does 7 a.m. sound?" "7 a.m.! Why can't you pick up the pie yourself?" Silence and then, "Well I'll have to find somewhere to put it at work. I guess I can get it myself." "Bye," I said and hung up. Ummm yeah...it would be a good idea for you to pick it up. Why not go up there and get it before work and take it back home? You don't go to work until 10!!!! I work hard, I raise the kids and I have my own stuff to take care of. Take care of your own business and stop asking me to do it! I've been doing it since I was a kid. Going to the store, doing the laundry...whatever you didn't want to do, the sisters and I were told or asked to do. If we didn't do it, guilt trip deluxe. No wonder I feel guilty for saying no to anyone. I refuse to be steamrolled anymore. I am done being walked on. Hire someone to do your errands or manage your time better and do them yourself. Stop being lazy! Stop being the martyr. Stop acting like I owe you something. I don't owe you anything. I am me and I am OK and I can say no without feeling guilty. I vow not to steamroll my own kids right now. I do not want to make anyone feel like this, ever!